Marriage counseling can often be seen as a punishment. You might see it as an indication that you have failed and need someone to help you fix your problems. Yes, you might need someone to help you fix your relationship, but it isn’t an indication that you have failed. Rather, it’s a sign that you…

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Meet Katherine, Couples Counselor at the Center for Couples and Families in Orem! Katherine Linscott (she/they) is originally from Loveland, Colorado. She received her bachelor’s degree in Behavioral Science from Utah Valley University. There, she helped to conduct research about newlywed sex life. Katherine received her master’s degree from Kansas State University, focusing mainly on…

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Learning how to communicate with your spouse is crucial to your marriage success. This isn’t a skill that you are taught in school or that seems to come naturally. In fact, part of your makeup as a human is to talk with them in ways that are not helpful. As humans, we tend to lean…

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Marriage counseling works best when you approach it as being beneficial to both of you. It’s not for your spouse, as you watch them improve their ways. It’s for you and your spouse, together. If not, then you are going to be frustrated and stuck.    The Problem   I often see couples come into…

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Marriage counseling is often put off until it’s either too late or until you and your spouse have difficult habits to break. Researchers have found that couples come into therapy years after they first need it (see John Gottman’s work). By this time, you have created and reinforced patterns of behavior that are difficult to…

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Marriage counseling for newlyweds would be a great requirement for a successful start to your marriage. Getting married in the first place can be difficult (and fun!), and can also bring unforeseen stress.    In a previous article I wrote about a few pre-marriage counseling tips (Related Article: Pre-Marriage Counseling Tips). The first was that…

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When it comes to relationship problems, this one is at the top of the list – stonewalling (Here are some others: Relationship Problems – Criticism and Relationship Problems – Contempt and Relationship Problems – Defensiveness). One of the most important things to remember is that it’s not the presence of relationship problems (i.e., arguments, fights)…

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Let’s talk about one of the more common relationship problems – defensiveness (Related Article: Relationship Problems – Criticism and Relationship Problems – Contempt). Remember, it’s not the presence of relationship problems (i.e., arguments, fights) that leads to divorce. But rather, it’s how you handle your relationship problems that can lead you divorce (from the research…

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As we mentioned in the previous article, saying you have relationship problems when you are married is like saying you got wet when you went swimming (Related Article: Relationship Problems – Criticism). It comes with the territory. Remember, it’s not the presence of relationship problems (i.e., arguments, fights) that leads to divorce. But rather, it’s…

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Saying that you have relationship problems when you are married is like saying you got wet when you went swimming. It comes with the territory. And remember, it’s not the presence of relationship problems (i.e., arguments, fights) that leads to divorce. Rather, it’s how you handle your relationship problems that can cause divorce (from the…

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