Marriage counseling is probably one of the most difficult things you can do, and, subsequently, the most important. That is, If it’s something that you need. Most couples put off marriage counseling years after they probably need to start. This hurts your relationship because the problems you have continue to damage your marriage over the…

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If you have asked yourself, ‘Is counseling right for me?”, you are not alone. Many people struggle with mental illness and need help. Did you know that depression is one of the most common mental health disorders in the United States, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. And don’t forget about anxiety. It…

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Poor communication in marriage is the number one problem I see as a therapist. Most couples that call for an appointment tell me they have ‘communication problems’. There are many ways to describe communication problems in marriage. Let’s talk about a few of them that I have noticed as a couples therapist. These are taken…

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As a therapist over the years, I have noticed a few common marriage problems. I see these going hand-in-hand with marriage problems such as the 4 horsemen of the apocalypse, based on my practice-based research. I am going to outline several common themes based on what I’ve seen as a PhD, marriage and family therapist…

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In a previous article, I wrote about 4 signs you have marriage problems. In this article, I will outline how to fix marriage problems. These concepts are taken from one of the world’s leading researchers on marriages, John Gottman. He has followed couples in his research studies and has found out what it takes for…

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If you are reading this article, you likely have marriage problems. Also, you could be thinking there isn’t hope because you have tried everything. Your own emotional health could be suffering.  Without hope, continuing in a marriage riddled with problems can be daunting. This article is meant to give you hope through recognizing specific issues…

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Many partners entering couples therapy look for one thing: better communication. It would stand to reason, then, that the most common complaint I hear from couples is that they have ‘communication problems’. But, what does that mean? It means the way you communicate with your spouse is painful. Furthermore, it means you do not know…

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As a marriage and family therapist who also does individual therapy, clients ask me what they should do to cope with emotions. There is a difference between coping with an uncomfortable emotion and avoiding that uncomfortable emotion. They are usually looking for a list of coping strategies. I hesitate to offer such a list without…

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Whether you are in counseling or not, if you want to deal with emotions in a healthy manner, then start with the following principles about emotional health. These steps are a good companion to couples therapy. These are assumptions that underlie steps in Emotions 101. You can use these principles as you participate in counseling…

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Offering depression counseling over the years, I have noted that depression comes in many forms. You might naturally feel down or depressed because you lost a relationship or you might experience a diagnosable major depressive episode. According to the National Institute of Mental Health (2017) about 7% of all adults experienced the latter in a…

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