When it comes to relationship problems, this one is at the top of the list – stonewalling (Here are some others: Relationship Problems – Criticism and Relationship Problems – Contempt and Relationship Problems – Defensiveness). One of the most important things to remember is that it’s not the presence of relationship problems (i.e., arguments, fights)…

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Let’s talk about one of the more common relationship problems – defensiveness (Related Article: Relationship Problems – Criticism and Relationship Problems – Contempt). Remember, it’s not the presence of relationship problems (i.e., arguments, fights) that leads to divorce. But rather, it’s how you handle your relationship problems that can lead you divorce (from the research…

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Saying that you have relationship problems when you are married is like saying you got wet when you went swimming. It comes with the territory. And remember, it’s not the presence of relationship problems (i.e., arguments, fights) that leads to divorce. Rather, it’s how you handle your relationship problems that can cause divorce (from the…

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Good communication in relationships isn’t something that comes naturally to most people. It’s hard to communicate with your partner when you are hurt or afraid. Your natural tendency is to learn away from danger, or the source of pain in your life. This is how your ancestors survived over time. They were able to lean…

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As a couples therapist in Utah County and Salt Lake County, I have worked with different types of clients. Over the years I have worked with clients presenting with anxiety, depression, pornography addiction, substance use problems, marriage problems, and many more. It’s been interesting that as I have worked with each one of them, my…

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Utah telehealth is a great way to do counseling or therapy online. You can do telehealth for marriage problems, depression, anxiety, or many other issues. After providing counseling online, I have an example I’d like to share. I have changed the names of the client and identifying information to protect the confidentiality of these clients. …

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Many believe that pornography use is a sex addiction. I have heard many clients (usually male) tell their partners that if they would just have more sex with them that they wouldn’t use pornography. These clients seem to believe that pornography is a sex issue. It’s not, however. It’s an avoidance issue. Let’s talk about…

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I’ve meet with many telehealth clients in Utah over the years as a counselor for depression, anxiety, pornography or relationship problems. I recently wrote about how to get the most out of Telehealth counseling sessions for marriage problems or individual issues (Related Article: Telehealth In Utah). In this article, I will outline how online counseling…

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Let’s talk about what emotional safety is and why it matters to your relationship and how to get it.    What Is Emotional Safety?   Emotional safety in your relationship is knowing and feeling that your partner sees you, accepts you and will be there for you. It involves being able to make mistakes and…

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How do you know if you need sex therapy? The answer is easier than you realize, but can be difficult to follow through on. Having relationship problems because of sex is common (Related Article: Relationship Problems – Sex). However, going to couples therapy is hard enough, let alone therapy for sexual issues (Related Article: Marriage…

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