Why come to marriage counseling and does it work? One of the main reasons to attend is that it can actually help your marriage get better. Not just on the surface, but fundamentally. The techniques and methods that a good Utah marriage counselor will use follow research based models such as EFT (Dr. Susan Johnson),…

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Learning how to communicate with your spouse is crucial to your marriage success. This isn’t a skill that you are taught in school or that seems to come naturally. In fact, part of your makeup as a human is to talk with them in ways that are not helpful. As humans, we tend to lean…

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Marriage counseling works best when you approach it as being beneficial to both of you. It’s not for your spouse, as you watch them improve their ways. It’s for you and your spouse, together. If not, then you are going to be frustrated and stuck.    The Problem   I often see couples come into…

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Marriage counseling is often put off until it’s either too late or until you and your spouse have difficult habits to break. Researchers have found that couples come into therapy years after they first need it (see John Gottman’s work). By this time, you have created and reinforced patterns of behavior that are difficult to…

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Marriage counseling for newlyweds would be a great requirement for a successful start to your marriage. Getting married in the first place can be difficult (and fun!), and can also bring unforeseen stress.    In a previous article I wrote about a few pre-marriage counseling tips (Related Article: Pre-Marriage Counseling Tips). The first was that…

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Marriage counseling in Orem can be effective. Most couples wait years too long to start couples therapy and their relationship pays the price (Related article: Couples Counseling: Why Waiting Can Hurt). If you and your spouse are on the fence about coming in or not, consider the following.    Either Way, It’s Going To Be…

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Recently, I wrote an article for anxiety help (See Article: Anxiety Help: Tips And Resources From A Counselor). If you suffer from anxiety, you are not alone. Millions of adult Americans struggle with this as well. And I’m not just talking about feeling anxious in general, rather, I’m talking about actual anxiety disorders. Or at…

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Therapy can be effective, whether you are attending individual, couples or family therapy. Here in Utah, many of your neighbors are coming into therapy for many different reasons. They come to counseling for depression, anxiety, pornography problems, relationship problems, ADHD, suicidal thoughts, life transitions, blended family issues, and adolescent or child problems.    No matter…

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When it comes to relationship problems, this one is at the top of the list – stonewalling (Here are some others: Relationship Problems – Criticism and Relationship Problems – Contempt and Relationship Problems – Defensiveness). One of the most important things to remember is that it’s not the presence of relationship problems (i.e., arguments, fights)…

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Let’s talk about one of the more common relationship problems – defensiveness (Related Article: Relationship Problems – Criticism and Relationship Problems – Contempt). Remember, it’s not the presence of relationship problems (i.e., arguments, fights) that leads to divorce. But rather, it’s how you handle your relationship problems that can lead you divorce (from the research…

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