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Pornography Counseling: Find Recovery and Healing
Find Recovery and Healing in Pornography Counseling Most of you who use pornography struggle to feel emotions. Aside from shame, that is. Pornography is, after all, a shame-based experience. After years as a marriage and family therapist and doing pornography counseling, I have noticed that it is not that you cannot or do not feel…
Read MoreEmotions 101: How To Be Healthy – Counseling
Counseling can help you deal with uncomfortable emotions in a healthy way. Most of us try to avoid uncomfortable emotions. Who likes to feel sad, depressed, lonely, hurt, scared or betrayed? Don’t you try to NOT feel this way? You might even engaged in unhealthy behaviors to avoid your emotions. Most people do. I encountered…
Read MoreMyth: Marriage needs to be 50/50
Here is one myth that a marriage counselor will help you dispel: Marriage needs to be a 50/50 split. Everything done and contributed needs to be equal. This simply is false. What marriage needs is 100% from each partner. In some instances, that means that one spouse will do more than the other because of…
Read MorePTSD And Trauma Counseling
Trauma counseling isn’t easy, but can be worth it. For trauma survivors, some therapists utilize the systemic approaches of internal family systems (IFS) and emotion-focused therapy (EFT). These approaches focus on strengthening attachment that exists both outside and inside of the self. Others also use play therapy when treating children and young adolescents who have…
Read MoreWhat You Should Know Before Starting EMDR Part Three: Emotional Regulation
About EMDR: Emotional Regulation In part 1 of this series, I discussed what trauma is, how it develops, and how that translates into negative beliefs. In part 2 I explained how to identify and explore negative beliefs about oneself. Both of these topics are important to know about when starting EMDR (a treatment for trauma…
Read MoreWhat To Know Before Starting EMDR Part Two: Negative Beliefs
About EMDR: Negative Beliefs EMDR is a trauma therapy approach developed by Francine Shapiro in the 1980s. EMDR addresses trauma, both in the form of single incidents and persistent negative experiences. For a more in-depth look at how trauma develops, see part 1 of this 3 part series. As I discuss in the first part,…
Read MoreWhat To Know Before Starting EMDR
EMDR (short for eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) is a treatment for trauma or trauma counseling developed by Francine Shapiro in the 1980s. This process involves the client doing eye movements (or other bilateral stimulation like tapping) as directed by a trained therapist while recalling distressing events with the goal of healing your mind. If…
Read MoreParenting: It’s Not What You Think
Let’s talk about parenting tips to help you create a stronger family. The ever-growing ideologies of parenting offer two polar scenarios. The first is a beautiful imagery of always smiling children, as if they are cherubim with harps playing harmoniously in the background. Parents and children holding and hands and skipping in sync with bluebird’s…
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