Marriage counseling can often be seen as a punishment. You might see it as an indication that you have failed and need someone to help you fix your problems. Yes, you might need someone to help you fix your relationship, but it isn’t an indication that you have failed. Rather, it’s a sign that you…

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Meet Katherine, Couples Counselor at the Center for Couples and Families in Orem! Katherine Linscott (she/they) is originally from Loveland, Colorado. She received her bachelor’s degree in Behavioral Science from Utah Valley University. There, she helped to conduct research about newlywed sex life. Katherine received her master’s degree from Kansas State University, focusing mainly on…

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Family counseling can be scary to start. You might be wondering what will happen. How the therapist will see you as parents and how they will start to help you change. Its reasonable to worry about what it will be like when you come to family therapy. Here are a few areas that you as…

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Learning how to communicate with your spouse is crucial to your marriage success. This isn’t a skill that you are taught in school or that seems to come naturally. In fact, part of your makeup as a human is to talk with them in ways that are not helpful. As humans, we tend to lean…

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Marriage counseling works best when you approach it as being beneficial to both of you. It’s not for your spouse, as you watch them improve their ways. It’s for you and your spouse, together. If not, then you are going to be frustrated and stuck.    The Problem   I often see couples come into…

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When it comes to relationship problems, this one is at the top of the list – stonewalling (Here are some others: Relationship Problems – Criticism and Relationship Problems – Contempt and Relationship Problems – Defensiveness). One of the most important things to remember is that it’s not the presence of relationship problems (i.e., arguments, fights)…

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Let’s talk about one of the more common relationship problems – defensiveness (Related Article: Relationship Problems – Criticism and Relationship Problems – Contempt). Remember, it’s not the presence of relationship problems (i.e., arguments, fights) that leads to divorce. But rather, it’s how you handle your relationship problems that can lead you divorce (from the research…

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As we mentioned in the previous article, saying you have relationship problems when you are married is like saying you got wet when you went swimming (Related Article: Relationship Problems – Criticism). It comes with the territory. Remember, it’s not the presence of relationship problems (i.e., arguments, fights) that leads to divorce. But rather, it’s…

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Saying that you have relationship problems when you are married is like saying you got wet when you went swimming. It comes with the territory. And remember, it’s not the presence of relationship problems (i.e., arguments, fights) that leads to divorce. Rather, it’s how you handle your relationship problems that can cause divorce (from the…

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Good communication in relationships isn’t something that comes naturally to most people. It’s hard to communicate with your partner when you are hurt or afraid. Your natural tendency is to learn away from danger, or the source of pain in your life. This is how your ancestors survived over time. They were able to lean…

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